One reason women have traditionally gossiped more than men is because gossip has been a social interaction wherein women have felt comfortable stating what they really think and feel. Often, rather than asserting what they think at the appropriate moment, women say what they think will please the listener. Later, they gossip, stating at that moment their true thoughts. This division between a false self invented to please others and a more authentic self need not exist when we cultivate positive self-esteem.
bell hooks, all about love: new visions (via ellesugars)
Reblogging for the women&femininity/gossip connection(!!), adding the caveat that “cultivating positive self-esteem” isn’t enough in this case because of external sexist double standards, etc etc etc.
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I based the series on two important things: Number one … I hated those series where the children were brighter than the parents, and those parents had to play dumb. Number two was that I wanted to ‘take the house back.